When I start to write, I usually start where I would in my coaching practice. I establish personality type. With Liz, she is an ISFP (to use the Myers-Briggs, Kiersey Sorter lettering). That means that Liz is self-reflective and tends to re-energize alone or in small groups. She relies on what her senses tell her when she is gathering information from the world and determining its validity. Liz tends to make decisions based on their impact on people, rather than the impact on policies. And finally, Liz really sees the world in shades of grey. She isn’t so good with structure and deadlines. Each of these elements of her personality shows up in her business and her life. I am not saying that this description is enough for anyone to assess their own personality; it is merely my analysis of Liz’s personality as it relates to my writing. Characters have to have the same reference points as all others so they, and their experiences, are relevant.

After establishing personality, I have to know who and what matters to Liz. Knowing this, serves as the anchor point for her choices. When she doesn’t understand why she is making the decisions she is, it doesn’t really matter what they are. She is untethered. I find many of my coaching clients are in similar situations. When they do not know what drives them; then anything will or nothing will. By determining values and needs, I am able to create a character that is believable and one whose challenges resonates with the reader.

I believe that people always have choices. We may not always like them, but there are options. We may choose to engage or we may choose to escape. Both are choices. Whether a character in a book, or a real person, our choices define us. It is important to know what personality tendencies we have and how they influence our everyday functioning. It is equally important to know what and who drives us; shapes our priorities and compels us to act. What choices are you making that are ‘in character’ and which decisions are ‘out of character?’ Notice that when you are acting ‘out of character’ there will be increased stress and conflict in your life because character and choice are linked.